If you haven’t read Part I yet, I strongly encourage you to read that first in order to get the full perspective.
So my wife and I were high school sweethearts, while we were dating, I made what I can look back on now as my first attempt to explore my feminine identity with her. For Halloween one year we were going trick-or-treating with some friends and I decided I wanted to go as a cheerleader. Well of course she had uniforms so she gave me one that I could use as a costume. However, when we got to her friends house and I changed into skirt and sweater, upon seeing me she freaked and insisted I take it off and go as something else. As I look back on it now, I realize that I felt safe enough with her to try exploring my feelings of gender. However, her extremely negative reaction simply reinforced all the shame I had internalized throughout my childhood. So I continued to deny what I was feeling and tucked it neatly back in that little box. Continue reading “Let’s Start at the Very Beginning (Part II)….”
We’ve all heard plenty about the characteristics of the so-called “Millenial” generation. They’re lazy, they’re entitled, they’re activists just looking for a cause. Personally I’ve always felt the labels given to this generation are unfair and judgement passed upon them are even more so (especially since it was my generation that created them). What often goes unseen is their prevailing level of desire for social justice. In the area of all things gender identity related in particular, they’ve taken on a far more open minded view than traditional culture. In fact, this generation seems to actually vilify those who do not share their viewpoint, and it seems they’ve taken it to an extreme. I’ve watched as my eldest child (who identifies as non-binary themselves) has blasted potential allies who simply were trying to understand but asked the wrong question or asked it in an inappropriate way. It’s this almost belligerent approach to demanding acceptance that I want to address. Continue reading “Finding Allies In Unexpected Places”